A Women24's reader needs advice - before it's too late. Here's her story:

I'm friends with a married couple. The husband and I are attracted to each other and kissed the other night - it hasn't gone further than that. He wants something more to happen and to be honest, I am really attracted to him, but don't want to have an affair. I see them everyday and am finding it hard to avoid being alone with him. I'm scared that I'm going to lose control and sleep with him. I haven't been intimate with anyone in a very long time. What do I do? We live near each other.

It's easy not to have an affair: have some will power and just don't. It's like beating up someone who mad you really angry, you don't because it is wrong. Ask the guy to tell his wife about the kiss, making it clear it will go no further, or if he doesn't you should. I have a very tactile relationship with all my friends, we often kiss and cuddle, but with consent of everyone, partners and spouses.

Another idea is looking into Polyamory (www.polyamory.co.za). It is having more than one loving relationship at a time, with full knowledge and consent of all involved.

Really, sweetpea, just say NO!

You seriously have to stop what you're doing it is not fair! you are a woman so you should put yourself in the wife's shoes and think how you'd feel if someone does the same to you. You might not even be attracted to this guy but have reason to think you are beacuese it's been a while since you've been intimate with anyone. Please do yourself a favour and stay away from that married man and find someone else who tickles your fancy and who can satisfy your uncontrolable desires.

I dont mean to judge you but it happened and no matter how hard you want to go deeper, just control your feelings and keep away from the couple if you know what's good for you. we need to remove the idea from our minds that just because a married man wants to jump into your pants it means the relationship with his wife is not good, men are just like that! he can get it good from his wife the previous night and want to have his secretary the next morning so dont flatter yourself lady!

The only way to avoid an affair (where this is most certainly headed) is to avoid all contact with him. There is no other way. The more time you spend in his company the more difficult it will get to control yourself. Do yourself and their marriage a favour and break off the friendship. Better to lose the freindship now than later with a lot of hurt in tow.